Get my Fiance to ride with me

Hi,

I have recently started riding, last year, after a very long break and my fiance is not into bike at all (Petrified !!). I need some advice from all you bikerholics to help me whith advise as to how to get her to at least try ??

Maybe the ladies out there have some advice ??

I have the same problem !!!

She has gone with me a few times, but she is very scared. I took her along on the Tresure Hunt so that she can meet some of the other dudes and dolls on the bikes. We went in the car though !!!

I can reccommend you bring her along to a club-evening where she can meet other ladies riding pillion. She will get alot of info and be more comfortable. I intend doing the same on the next club-night.

Sharkie wrote:

I can reccommend you bring her along to a club-evening where she can meet other ladies riding pillion. She will get alot of info and be more comfortable. I intend doing the same on the next club-night.

Good idea, will push my luck with her...

My wife of 29 years still won't ride pillion with me. I miss her when I'm away, but she will not ride behind me and that is it...!

One thing that I am very grateful for - she doesn't stop me from riding. For that reason, I don't push her to ride with me.
I have had my daughter, my German-exchange-student-daughter - even one or two female friends that asked me for a ride - but never my wife.

i don't have the problem that you guys have . . . maybe becuase i have a F800GS

me thinks you should get F800GS

You have my simpathy in this regard. Elsabe has no problem riding pillion. Had to start out slowly - and corner very rustig - no hooligan stuff. You are welcome to come and talk to Elsabe and myself at the next clubmeeting.
I also hear what Richard says - but i only fully enjoy the bike with Elsabe on the back.
Which bike do you ride - does it have a top box - if so always have it and the side panniers on when lifting - gives them something to sit against and gives them a feeling of security in this regard. LeRoy

LeRoy Olivier wrote:You have my simpathy in this regard. Elsabe has no problem riding pillion. Had to start out slowly - and corner very rustig - no hooligan stuff. You are welcome to come and talk to Elsabe and myself at the next clubmeeting.
I also hear what Richard says - but i only fully enjoy the bike with Elsabe on the back.
Which bike do you ride - does it have a top box - if so always have it and the side panniers on when lifting - gives them something to sit against and gives them a feeling of security in this regard. LeRoy

Well i just blew it today !!!

See my article under general - Diesel spill

I ride an F800ST and do have panniers and a top box with a cushion (for her)

Read it - does not defray from my comments. Obviously it will take some hard work to convince her - but in the end reason will prevail. Hope the bike is fixed soon and the cost is not to high.
When the bike is fixed do short rides from home - go somewhere close to drink coffee, go to the movies - but short rides (less than 50km's) - in and around town. Mostly how i got Elsabe interrested in and liking the bike ride itself. Touring can be worked in later. LeRoy.

I agree with Leroy. Short and slow distances for the beginning.

Lastly - slow pull-aways, and don't wiggle in traffic - until she is very comfortable on the back, and trust the bike and your biking abilities. You will get there, and once you have her convinced, the pleasure of doing it together cannot be described. LeRoy

the pleasure of doing it together cannot be described

I agree... it is great fun sharing the experience together! I am a pillion and enjoy every moment, long distances, short distances, rain, no rain... I'm enjoying every single moment of being a pillion, while is lasts, cause one day I will want to ride a bike myself and then there's no turning back!

the pleasure of doing it together cannot be described

I agree... it is great fun sharing the experience together! I am a pillion and enjoy every moment, long distances, short distances, rain, no rain... I'm enjoying every single moment of being a pillion, while is lasts, cause one day I will want to ride a bike myself and then there's no turning back!

I will want to ride a bike myself and then there's no turning back!

Absolutely!

Corlia wrote:...... cause one day I will want to ride a bike myself and then there's no turning back!.....

so sê ek ook mos

that's the spirit

Bear, tell her by riding with you, she has the opportunity to hold you as long as she likes...cause face it, you guys don't like cuddling all that much!
She really doesn't know what she is missing out on! I myself wasn't to fond of the bike thing either, but tried since Sias is crazy about bikes and I thought, hey..this might be something we can do togehter. And suprise, suprise... I fell in love with the whole thing!

Thanks Corlia,

will give that a try, but i tend to cuddle too much....

Hence the name Bear

But after pranging my 800ST she is even worse

Must be honest, about a year and a half ago i borrowed an RT from lifestyle and went on a b/run to cullinan and then on to Bronkhorstspruit to see the monestary there and she went with, was very nervous but she sort of enjoyed it...

Especially after we stopped on the way back at a pub and she had a drink ! (I had a coke)..

When i sell my ST and get an RT it might be different

Cuddling - can one ever cuddle to much - althoug the time and place is much more important - dont think the bike is the right place though - can lead to serious mishaps. Planning thus of utmost importance. LeRoy

Must think me is a lucky one. Me wife just love the open road. Me thinks it is the droewors that is usually in the top box.

She once almost fell off because she dozed off. Luckily I felt she was sliding to one side and woke her with a quick "opstopper" with the back of my elbow.

I find that totally amazing, i have a friend that his wife regularly falls asleep on the back of a bike also...

Perske wrote:Must think me is a lucky one. Me wife just love the open road. Me thinks it is the droewors that is usually in the top box.

She once almost fell off because she dozed off. Luckily I felt she was sliding to one side and woke her with a quick "opstopper" with the back of my elbow.

Frightening! It seems almost more important for the pillion to stock up on coffee and red bul than the rider. I cant see how one can fall asleep on a bike. Must be doing very long stretches at a time. Then again, I am still a young biker, so I am on cloud 9 whenever I am on my bike

Corlia wrote: suprise, suprise... I fell in love with the whole thing!

Da bike or Sias????

Fell in love with Sias long before the bike came along!

Perske wrote:She once almost fell off because she dozed off. Luckily I felt she was sliding to one side and woke her with a quick "opstopper" with the back of my elbow.

Get a L - O - N - G belt that goes around your better half and yourself and keep it all together...!

Ag no man. Slow with the cuddling and hugging. Not all of us have a "better" halve.